We all have goals.
Big goals. Small goals. Work goals. Relationship goals. Friendship goals.
Here are mine and how I have achieved them or plan to achieve them.
Graduating College: I graduated in 2017 with a Bachelor of General Studies from West Texas A&M University. I missed my graduation because I was living in Florida as a part of the Disney College Program. Technically, I had two graduations. I was honestly more proud of myself for finishing my program than graduating. When I got back to Texas, I realized I failed a class. The last class of my college career and I bombed it. BOMBED. I was devastated, but it made my graduation that much more satisfying. I took Media Law as my last course and I honestly think if I hadn’t taken that I wouldn’t be able to reach for my next goal.
Law School: So there I am watching The People Vs. OJ Simpson: American Crime Story and I see Sarah Paulson playing Marcia Clark and I knew I wanted to be her. I wanted to be as fierce, funny, and flirty as her. I researched, practiced for 6 months, took my LSAT, and now I am waiting. Waiting for my Marcia Clark moment. Stay tuned for this goal.
Reading books: I used to read all the time. Now I have a terrible habit of buying a new book at Target, reading it halfway, and setting it aside for another. My small goal is to finish the stack of books I have sitting on my night stand. Stay tuned for reviews of these books.
Mindfulness: I practice mindfulness whenever I get the chance. My favorite times are in 5’o’clock traffic and when I’m drinking my coffee in the morning. I need to find more times to practice, but these seem to work well for me. This is a goal I can never fully reach since it’s something I have to constantly do. Stay tuned for tips on this relaxing practice.
Staying busy: I have a bad habit of finishing my work and not telling anyone. I get done with writing for a client, finishing a blog for someone, or finally get done curating a list, and then I sit on Facebook for 30 minutes. It’s like a need a quick break or a wind down when I’m done and it’s a bad habit. I have gotten a lot better – don’t get me wrong – but I can always improve.
Communication: I have a short fuse. I’m a fireball. A tall stick of dynamite. Pick your favorite term. I have trouble communicating (hence the reason this blog exists). I used to write everything in a journal, letting it all out, and for some reason I thought this was helping. It did for a while, don’t get me wrong. I was letting all this out of me, but it was still bottled up. So when Jesse, my mom, or a friend didn’t understand how I felt I would get really frustrated. I already told someone about this, but in reality I had only told myself. Communicating my needs, my wants, my feelings, my emotions is an important goal for all of my relationships.
Letting go: We all have friends that come and go in our lives. Whether this is because people move off, people grow a part, or any number of things. I always thought I lost friends because I wasn’t doing something right. I realize now that it isn’t me, but it isn’t them either. It’s life and it’s learning to let go. Learning that we won’t always be friends, but the time in our lives that we were, we should cherish. This is a goal that, like mindfulness, can’t be fully reached. It’s just something I have to remember, and you should remember too.
Making an effort: One thing about learning to let go is also learning to make an effort. I can’t expect to always be invited to every event, hang out, or party. I have to reach out. You have to reach out. Friendship doors swing both ways. This is something I learned the hard way. I would reach, reach, and reach but in the end turns out I was needing to let go of the people who had left me behind already. Stay tuned for tips on what to say when reaching out.
I hope this inspires you to write your own goals. Big, small, work, relationship, and friendship. Tell me if you accomplish them. Tell your mom. Tell your grandad. Tell someone. People deserve to know your accomplishments.
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