Hello, 2020

It’s taken me a minute to really sit down and think about what I want to achieve this year. 2018 and 2019 were two of the hardest years of my life and I don’t want to repeat the same cycle. Even though the end of 2019 proved to be rewarding, the road there was long, dusty, and hurtful.

Here are my resolutions for 2020. These resolutions/goals are attainable, easily able to be tracked, and will create interest on themselves to make a better outcome for me come 2021.

Skipping the Surface

I have had quite the awakening recently with how I interact with people. I tend to stay on the surface and glide along through my life and relationships without diving to deep. I stick to small talk, day-to-day chit chat, and basic questions. Not to say that I’ve been called boring, but I haven’t been called.. exciting. It was a bit of a kick in the pants, but the wake up call I needed.

I’ve already been practicing, and it’s hard. It’s hard to ask someone a question, listen to the information, hear the information, retain, regurgitate, and then ask another question based off of that one. I’m not kidding when I said I was practicing on people.

In 2020.. 2021.. and forevermore will I be asking deeper questions in my conversations with people. And, not only asking but remembering what they say and letting them feel heard and important – because they are.

Write to Publish

I’ve taken the last month or so off to really reflect on this blog and what I want it to become. When I started it was created as an outlet for me to write and process my journey into self-care, make announcements, and give some insight into what I was reading or experiencing. Now that we are starting not only a new year, but a new decade this blog is going to be something different.

I’ve been diving into writing more short, personal stories. It’s not easy because I’m not used to it. I usually write with a “diary” style and this new venture is hard, but it’s fun. I am challenging myself with this and I’m not sure how it’ll play out.

I’ve always wanted to publish a book and I never knew quite what it was going to be, but I think I’m gathering the idea.

This blog is going to start shifting to more short stories, poetry, and personal writings rather than self-help lists. It’s a scary change, but hopefully you’ll all still stick with me and we can get through it together.

I won’t share everything, of course, then there would be no point of publishing a book. But, this platform gives me a chance to “test” some things, so thank you for giving me that.

Devote More Time to Mental and Physical Health

I spend a lot of time on my mental health, but it’s never enough and it will never be enough. I want to constantly strive to be better and mindfulness and meditation. By digging a little deeper with people, I am hoping that in return I will also dig a little deeper with myself.

Diving more into my writing, changing this outlet into something more creative, and being more intentional with my conversations with others is going to have an effect on my mental health, so if I don’t take more time for it then we won’t have a good year.

My physical health comes in bursts of inspiration or, in most cases, the urgency of bikini season approaching. In 2020, we’re not getting healthy for bikini season, we’re getting healthy for all our seasons! Good, bad, ugly – my body reflects the way I am living my life and vice versa. Put the good in, and good will come out.

Other resolutions

Embracing a Natural Look

In 2020 we’re saying goodbye to hair products (except for shampoo/conditioner) and heat.

My hair has suffered so much damage over the last decade (think back to bleach blonde, pink, extensions, bobs, and weaves). I am going to try my very, very hardest to embrace this natural mop God placed on my head.

This is going to be super challenging for me. My hair isn’t straight, wavy, or curly – it simply exists. Hopefully, I’ll find some neat ways to tame it.. send encouragement during these trying times.

No More Minimum Payments

I have had the same freakin’ credit card debt for 2 years now. I make a minimum payment every month and then my interest rate takes about half of that. It’s a stupid, vicious cycle and the worst part is – those credit cards are cancelled!

I’ve been throwing money into the air and it never coming back down for two damn years. We are paying that shit off this year and saying goodbye to my college Discover card once and for all. I’m grown!

I hope your 2020 resolutions for the year (or the decade) are attainable. Don’t set yourself up for failure too early by creating too lofty of goals that are going to leave you out of breath by the end of January. Even if they’re monthly, bi-weekly, or daily – you can do them!

Happy New Year, friends.